''What sacrifices have you made''

Derek Gibson · Nov 1, 2015

For fishing I mean.

Looking back I admit to having made a few, most notably having neglected my business which I had built up over a fifteen year period. There are others, but minor by comparison.

But I know of other anglers who's marriages have been wrecked, bankruptcy and a couple of other extreme cases where health and welfare have been neglected resulting in dire consequences, to name but a few drastic examples.

But in the main, these are few and far between, and don't represent the majority.

So the question is, by comparison ,''What are your sacrifices''?

wanderer · Nov 1, 2015

Not a lot Derek, but i have known guys where there marriage has broken up and in the case of Jon Sidley and a few more extreme specialists it probably cost them their lives.

theartist · Nov 1, 2015

Anyone who's self employed knows that a fishing trip can mean a day where your'e not getting paid so in effect costing double with the expenses incurred.

Worth it every time though!

john step · Nov 1, 2015

Not much for fishing even though fishing is constantly in my thoughts. Its what I am. Its been that way since early childhood.

I am very lucky you see in that my marriage is very strong. My sandwich maker is very supportive and understanding even though she has no intention of fishing herself. I even get tackle bought for birthdays and Christmas.

She has a good sense of humour and laughs like a drain at some of the more ribald jokes on here when I read them out loud.
Chomely Corker please keep them up!

I do understand how some anglers have failing outside lives though as a result of obsession.
My obsession was in my past professional life.We all have lives outside fishing to earn a living mostly. I feel guilty sometimes but it did pay the bills and it pays to have a supportive partner. I could have been so very different.

mg:

Derek, you are getting very philosophical lately.

dorsetandchub · Nov 1, 2015

I seek, perhaps, to turn the question on its head and ask myself what fishing I have sacrificed in order to attend to all the other, often banal, aspects of life?

steve2 · Nov 1, 2015

The reverse, I sacrificed many fishing days in order to work and to be with and bring up my family.
Now retired I fish when I like.

binka · Nov 1, 2015

In earlier life I'm sure fishing was a factor in me walking away from being engaged twice, in fairness I was also working my bollox off for a fair number of years at the time and I chose fishing over spending what little spare time I had with her indoors.

Can't say I regret it though and I've now got all the time in the world.

I suppose you could say I had "broken" the relationships

mg:

flightliner · Nov 1, 2015

Years ago I was sat in the Nelson pub in Muskham near Newark. It was early evening and I was having a meal prior to spending the night carp fishing on the Trent.
A few guys who had fished a big match were on the next table to me and it was hard not to overhear the conversation that went along the following lines---- "I,ve been matchfishing since I was twenty, often twice, sometimes three times a week, all prep and anticipation between times but its over come the winter" "Why" said another "I suddenly realised my son and daughter were all grown up and I had missed the whole thing"
How sad is that.

peterjg · Nov 1, 2015

Sacrifices, sacrifices! Don't talk to me about sacrifices!

I've sacrificed going to work - to go fishing.
I've sacrificed going shopping with the wife - to go fishing.
I've sacrificed decorating - to go fishing.
I've sacrificed visiting relatives - to go fishing.
I've sacrificed gardening - to go fishing.

Only joking (I think?).

bracket · Nov 1, 2015

I have always been a "man's man" so sacrifices? Not a one. If my nearest and dearest had issues with that, well tough. That's me, take it or leave it. Pete

Bob Hornegold · Nov 1, 2015

Nah,

I never sacrificed anything for fishing, I worked away from home for a fare old time and I use to work hard.

But being away from home meant I could go fishing straight from work, fish all night and get back to work for clocking in time ?

I have seen a number of good friends marriages fail because of fishing, but maybe their marriages weren't that good in the first place.

Marriages break up for all sort of reasons, fishing might be one, but more likely there were other far deeper reasons for the failures.

Bob

terry m · Nov 1, 2015

The earlier post about an individual missing his children growing up because of fishing is very sad.

Everything in moderation, sometimes I sacrifice 'home' time to go fishing, sometimes the other way round.

Fishing is important, but only one part of my life, I have no intention of knowingly making critical sacrifices just to spend a few more hours on the bank.

JasonH · Nov 4, 2015

I've sacrificed nothing and am now reaping the benefits, I was a mad fisherman as a youngster, spending summer holiday at the local pits and fishing every spare moment that I could.

Got out into the real world and joined the forces, got married and had kids, priorities changed and I restricted myself to the odd boat trip on holidays but the angler was still inside me, the day I can walk over a bridge without gazing dreamily into the watery depths and looking for fish will be the day I hang up my rods.

Fast forward a few years and the kids are almost self sufficient and I can do whatever I want with my wife's blessing ( within reason )

She spends a lot of her time horse riding and I help out with this where possible, in return I can fish whenever I want and do at least 1 big overseas fishing trip a year.

Didn't miss anything with the kids growing up and we're still married

It's just a case of re-assessing your priorities at the various stages of your life and acting accordingly. I'm positive that if I'd gone the way of some of my mates and fishing every spare hour then I wouldn't be doing the trips I'm doing now.

law · Nov 4, 2015

Nothing. It's a hobby.

edsurf · Nov 4, 2015

I did not miss my kids growing up , I took them fishing with me soon as they could hold a rod even though I spent most of my time re tackling up etc , they are grown men now and I fish on my own, on the odd time they come fishing with me it is a pleasure. they don't fish regular as both travel a lot but its in the blood now , my work is done.

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